On the eve of the New Year, let’s reminisce about childhood and how sincerely and persistently many of us wanted a dream doll, a sports toy car, a tank, or toy soldiers that were sold in the biggest store in the city.
Or how we wished to ride with our parents on sleighs, skates, or a scooter, so that with the effect of ‘Ah! I’m tired, and that’s enough for me!’
Perhaps someone dreamed of becoming a singer, an astronaut, or a teacher. Maybe someone dreamed of knitting or sewing clothes for their doll from the fabric they imagined in their dreams?!
In all these childhood dreams, there was an incredibly strong and sincere childlike desire to want!
But there was another side of the coin – parental.
- You want too much, you’ll get too little!
- See what you’ve wished for!
- You’ve pushed your luck!
- Less dreaming, more doing!
- When you grow up, we’ll talk about what you need in life!
When these children grow up, they start working a lot and desiring little.
Because wanting is bad, desiring is indecent, desire doesn’t equate to getting something, and sometimes it means being disregarded by others. Often, even after earning a lot of money, people don’t allow themselves many pleasures that are not as financially or time-consuming but are precious for fulfilling their essence.
Often, parental instructions and prohibitions on dreaming and wanting make not only children but also adults unhappy. A sudden ‘I won’t buy it, you won’t go out, you don’t need it’ leaves a long-lasting prohibition on satisfaction in a person’s memory.
On the eve of the New Year, try to get closer, at least a step, to your dream and become the same adult for yourself that you once dreamed of.
You can write a little letter to yourself, at the times when you were little, when you lacked love, acceptance, understanding, and care, financial well-being, or just kindness! Be the adult for yourself that you would have wanted to have at that moment when you lacked it.